Mother nature knows best....should older men and
younger women be marrying and conceiving, cougars younger men, or should men and women be about the same age?
Here
are the facts:
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The older man younger woman has been given a wink and a nod for years by men in general. But there are some problems
with that pairing, as well as with the older woman younger man pairing.
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In the first secnario, older men have a more difficult time to naturally engage in sex as
they age. They can't get, or hold a firm enough erection, which should be telling them something in itself. Not only is a
natural sexual experience very difficult, but their fertility begins to decline relatively early. News to most men.
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A woman's sexual peak hits around age 35-40. So for that reason alone,
the older woman younger man is a better match in that arena. Any man who wants a real cougar in bed should be looking... not
for women in their twenties, but women in their mid 30's to 40's. But her fertility too weakens around 35.
Interestingly, infertility and birth defects have always been seen as a female, and not a male
problem. Wrong.
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The latest studies now show higher rates of birth
defects including autism, schizophrenia and Down syndrome in children born to older men.
Should this help boost the new trendy phenom… women who date younger
men? Do they have the right idea after all?
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Over the past decade older men seem to have been trying to relive their youth
by starting second families with younger women, but is that a good idea? Along with other studies showing
the notable increase of many other birth defects with older men, a recent paper by researchers at the Karolinska
Institute in Sweden found that the risk of bipolar disorder in children increased as the age of the
father increased too, particularly in children born to men over 50.
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And what about
the difficulty in simply getting pregnant ? It used to be that infertility was also considered to be the fault
of the woman no matter what her age and as men aged, the older man younger woman pair seemed natural for the man who
wanted to exchange his aging wife for a younger woman to father more children. And science seemed to support him decades
ago because the genesis of that archaic bias was
rooted in what we knew about the biology of the sexes. Women are born with a determined amount of eggs — about a million.
And the healthiest egges are ovulated first.
Men always had "fresh sperm" that was produced about
every 90 days. And new sperm
meant better quality, right? In the past, rumor was that there wasn’t any difference between a younger
man’s sperm and an old man’s sperm. After all, wasn't there a 90 year old man who had a baby somewhere?
(Or did she have a young man on thhe side? We'll never know.) Regardless, the newest research
suggests otherwise. As men age, their sperm changes and so does their DNA.
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A French study published in the current issue of Reproductive
BioMedicine Online found that in couples undergoing infertility treatment, the father's age had as much effect as the
mother's on rates of pregnancy and miscarriage — the older either parent was, the less likely they were to get pregnant,
more likely to miscarry and have children with birth defects. Getting pregnant also takes much longer when
either partner is 5 years older or more.
Sorry guys, I'm just the messenger. Men may continue to fantacize about the older man younger
woman pairing but the facts don't support that union. Although “fresh” sperm is made about every 90 days
even from an older man, the cells that make sperm are subject to increasing DNA mutations as men age, affecting
the quality of the sperm they produce. And that degeneration and mutating DNA in the sperm leads to more birth defects
and medical problems.
In another
study in Sweden, published in the Archives of General Psychiatry, researchers found that risk of developing bipolar
disorder began to increase in children born to older men .... around age 40. And it increases substantially as they age
which suggests a strong genetic component. Other studies globally have had similar results. Older
men, younger women, or cougars (30+) with younger men? Studies show that couples with partners who are about the
same child bearing age (5 years or less in age difference), are more likely to conceive faster.... within a
year, compared with couples where the men are five years or older than the woman.
Women have been burdoned too long with articles and
conversation about the statistics of their fertility and decreasing chances about conceiving a child through
out the ages. They've also been saddled with thinking they were responsible for the increase in risks of bearing children
with birth defects if they do conceive. While men believed they could play around and start a family at any
age, the new studies have all but blown those ideas out of the water. The new research shows it's time
that men in the mid-30s realize that they share the same "ticking clock" pressure to "make a
baby".
Mother nature knows best. Regardless what men want to believe....the older man younger woman scenario
doesn't play out for conceiving children or sexual compatibility. (Although that little blue pill certainly has given
men a second chance)
The fact is that cougars.... older women younger men are
a better match in the bedroom as far as sexual peaks, and the best match for conceiving children is still when both
people are about the same child-bearing age. Any age difference over five years is just too much.
