First, throw away anything you think you’ve learned about making love to a woman from the locker room, your buddies or porn movies if you want to please a woman. What you’ve heard for years is a distorted view of women’s needs. Locker “gossip” is garbage. Porn has nothing to do with the real world. They’re written and acted out purely to titillate men (and some women) so don’t fool yourself into thinking they will teach you how to satisfy a woman’s sexual needs.

If you really want to see how to satisfy a woman visually, instead watch the Better Sex instructional videos, or adult videos geared to women, like Playgirl.

If you want to please a woman don’t think like a man. Men love oral sex by sucking, and think all women do too. Most don’t, but many are willing to give a man oral sex. Those who do like oral sex don’t like to have their clitoris sucked like men do. It feels better when it is licked, massaged or rubbed by the man’s finger or tongue. Ask her if she likes what you are doing. You may be applying too much or too little pressure which defeats the purpose you are trying to achieve.

Women like foreplay. Learn where her erogenous zones are. You’ll get a good idea from her responses to you when you touch her thighs, ears, neck, breasts and arms etc. Tease her. Don’t penetrate too quickly. Make her want you! Kissing is very sensual and arouses women. If you’re not a good kisser, follow her lead. She’ll let you know what turns her on and what doesn’t by encouraging you or by pulling back a bit or trying to change what’s happening. So, pay attention to her signals.

Women are much more insecure about their bodies than men, except when it comes to the size of his penis. A man doesn’t have to have a 9” Johnson. The normal 5”-7” is perfectly good. Thick is better than long. The important thing is that you know the real art of making love to her.  But women have issues about every inch of their bodies. If you make her feel good about her body, she will be more open to creative love-making. She’ll want to wear sexy lingerie for you. She will be more comfortable in front of you. It takes awhile to really learn how to please a woman, and practice makes perfect, right?

Sex begins before you’re actually in bed. Make her feel important, valued. Make her feel secure. A woman who feels valued will open herself to you and be more willing to share her intimate desires. A woman who feels secure with her partner is much more willing to explore new ideas about making love.

When you actually do make love, it will be to her mind, soul and her body. She won’t feel like it’s just an animal instinct. It will be fulfilling on many levels to her. And by extension you will get a more fulfilling sexual experience.

Learn how to please a women by learning where her erogenous zones are. You’ll get a good idea from her responses to you when you touch her thighs, ears, neck, breasts and arms. Tease her. Don’t penetrate too quickly. Make her want you! Kissing is very sensual and arouses women. If you’re not a good kisser, follow her lead. She’ll let you know what turns her on and what doesn’t by encouraging you or by pulling back a bit or trying to change what’s happening.