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Older Men, Younger Women. Why are they attracted to one another, what makes this relationship work,
and the new player on the field, The Cougar

HOW YOU CAN DATE OLDER MEN

There are several reasons that some men date and marry younger women. Some have a better success rate than others.
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Most older men who go for the  much younger woman (10 years or more) are subconsciously looking for a fountain of youth. They want to be the young hot stud again and hope that people will think they are younger because they have a younger woman on their arm.
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There are those who use the younger woman on their arm as a tallisman for the wealth they've accumulated. It is a way to show the world they can afford to have one on their arm. For older men like this, a meaningful relationship may not be as important as long as their ego is boosted.
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Some older men want younger women to stimulate their waning sexual desire. And still others seek a younger woman because they need control over their partner and think that a younger woman will bend to their demands more easily.
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Let's face it. Youth is beautiful, and enticing by its very nature. And while it may be more exciting in the bedroom for awhile, it doesn't last. Just as it didn't last when they were younger, more virile men. Sex alone does not make a relationship. The more important factors that create long-lasting relationships begin to surface and interfere in the relationship after a few months and the gap between their ages begins to show how little they have in common.
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And when the older man ultimately realizes he can't recapture his youth by being with a younger woman things can become worse. Instead of feeling younger, the older man will actually feel even older when he's with a woman who looks much younger than he does. It becomes a constant reminder of his older age instead of making him feel like a youthful man.
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No matter if you are an older man who wants a younger woman, or a woman closer to your own age, the fact is....
WOMEN WHO LIKE SEX, WANT MEN WITH A LARGE PENIS.

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The reasons MOST YOUNG WOMEN WANT OLDER MEN are the same now as they were decades ago...Younger Women are Attracted to MONEY, POWER, and FAME. Rich and famous actors like Harrison Ford and Michael Douglas, or powerful real estate moguls like Donald Trump who married women young enought to be their granddaughters attract these younger women for a couple of reasons. One, what they can offer in the way of financial security. And two, the possibility of furthering their own careers. Young women love to be with a man of means and power.
Now older men that are not rich and famous can also attract young women, but these women tend to be looking more for a father substitute, or aren't able to attract a younger man, and want to marry so they are willing to settle for an older man. This doesn't have to be a problem. Knowing what motivates young women to older men helps the men adjust to the relationship's peculiarities..The key is honesty
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Today women are taught to seek their own success. Marrying a famous and powerful man can help them with those goals. These relationships usually last as long as the woman feels she still needs the older man's connections, and money. A few of these pairings have been successful matches, but the vast majority are transient relationships and some of the men go away feeling used. Some recognize the relationship for what it is, aren't interested in a meaningful relationship and simply go on to the next. They make no illusions about true love. For them both partners are getting what they want from the union..
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NOT ALL YOUNGER WOMEN MARRY FOR MONEY.There are other reasons younger women want older men. Many of these women have experienced trauma in their lives and they are seeking not necessarily financial but the emotional security an older man can offer. .
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Some younger women who want older men feel abandoned bytheir own father and want to replace that lost relationship with a different father figure; an older man. Or, they may have been abused or hurt in a relationship with a younger man and therefore feel safer with an older man. These women can be very grateful to an understanding older male partner and there can be genuine affection and love..
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There are also younger women who feel they are more mature than men their own age and seek older men for their sophistication and years of life experience. In reality, these women are seeking to gain the wisdom and experience the older man has by osmosis without realizing that can never be. Real sophistication and maturity can only come with years of living..
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Are these "older men, younger women" relationships doomed? Not necessarily as long as both parties are honest with themselves about what they expect from the other person. And there are other factors that need to be considered: .Religion, close Socio-economic backgrounds, children, spending habits, character and more are also important factors to consider for the older men younger women pairing.
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                                                                                    OLDER MEN YOUNGER WOMEN AND STARTING A SECOND FAMILY
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If you are having sex, you could have children even if you are using protection. So pregnancy is something to consider. Are you ready for 20+ more years of parenting? Of changing diapers for babies, tantrums of toddlers, extreme hormonal changes of teens and everything that comes with these natural events? .Mother nature still may know best in questions of the heart and there are some serious ones to be answered before entering into a relationship if you want it to last. .
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So, should older men and younger women be marrying and conceiving children ? Here are the Facts:.
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First, Mother Nature  really does know best....Not only do men have a more difficult time to naturally engage in sex as they age, which should be telling them something in itself, but their fertility begins to decline relatively early — around age 24, six years or so before women's. In fact, women hit their sexual peak at around 40. So for that reason alone, the older woman younger man is a better match in that arena. Any man who wants a real "cougar" in bed should be looking not for women in their twenties, but women in their late 30's to 40's.

Infertility and birth defects have been seen as a female, and not a male problem. Wrong. The latest studies now show higher rates of birth defects including autism, schizophrenia and Down syndrome in children born to older men. And just this year, 2012, science has shown why. As men enter their thirties and beyond, their DNA starts to deteriorate.
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Should these new findings help boost the new trendy phenom… women who date younger men? Do they have the right idea after all? Over the past decade older men seem to have been trying to relive their youth by starting second families with younger women, but is that a good idea?
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Along with other studies showing the notable increase of many other birth defects, a recent paper by researchers at the Karolinska Institute in Sweden found that the risk of bipolar disorder in children increased as the age of the father increased too, particularly in children born to men over 50. .
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And what about the difficulty in simply getting pregnant ? It used to be that infertility was also considered to be the fault of the woman no matter what her age and as men aged, the older man younger woman pairing seemed natural for the man who wanted to exchange his aging wife for a younger woman. At the time, science seemed to support him because the genesis of that archaic bias was rooted in the biology of the sexes.
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Women are born with a determined amount of eggs — about a million. And the healthiest egges are ovulated first..
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Men, it was thought, always had "fresh sperm" that were produced about every 90 days. And new sperm meant better quality, right? Wrong. In the past, rumor was that there wasn’t any difference between a younger man’s sperm and an old man’s sperm. After all, wasn't there a 90 year old man who had a baby somewhere? (Or did she have a young man on thhe side? We'll never know.)
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 Regardless, the newest research suggests otherwise. As men age, their sperm changes and so does their DNA..
A French study published in Reproductive BioMedicine Online found that in couples undergoing infertility treatment, the father's age had as much effect as the mother's as it relates to rates of pregnancy and miscarriage — the older either parent was, the less likely they were to get pregnant, more likely to miscarry and have children with birth defects.
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Getting pregnant also takes much longer when either partner is 5 years older or more. Sorry guys, I'm just the messenger. Men may continue to fantacize about the older man younger woman scenario but the facts don't support that union for procreation. Although “fresh” sperm is made about every 90 days even from an older man, the cells that make sperm are subject to increasing DNA mutations as men age, affecting the quality of the sperm they produce. And those mutations lead to more birth defects and medical problems.
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In another study in Sweden, published in the Archives of General Psychiatry, researchers found that risk of developing bipolar disorder began to increase in children born to older men .... around age 40. And it increases substantially as they age which suggests a strong genetic component.
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Other studies globally have had similar results. Older men, younger women, or cougars (30+) with younger men? Studies show that couples with partners who are about the same child bearing age (5 years or less in age difference), are more likely to conceive faster.... within a year, compared with couples where the men are five years or older than the woman. .
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Yes, Mother nature knows best. Regardless what men want to believe....the older men younger women scenario doesn't play out for conceiving children or optimum sexual compatibility for that matter. The fact is that the best match for conceiving children is still when both people are about the same child-bearing age (five years or less difference in age).