Older Women Younger Men

The Autumn-Spring relationship between men and women has a new twist. In the past some men have opted to date and sometimes marry younger women. With a "wink-wink", many accepted this union, but not the reverse. Well, times they are a changin’. Today, younger men are recognizing the advantages of dating and marrying an older woman. But for the teen-age girls to these women, it presents a challenge. According to one article I read in Seventeen magazine, one teen, Bri says she wishes her mom would change — but not because it embarrasses her in front of her friends. "The truth is that my friends think my mom is so cool and pretty, and my guy friends think she's sexy. My ex-boyfriend used to joke about getting with her! But I don't want my crushes crushing on my mom. I feel like I have to keep her away from my new boyfriend to keep him from paying more attention to her than to me."

Wow. What a revelation. So for those of you who have felt invisible in a crowd because you are over 40 take heart. There are plenty of great guys who recognize the value of a mature woman, and some of them are younger men.

Too many women over 50 and even 40 have started to feel invisible, worthless. The kids are grown, perhaps they are single (again) and have relied upon the various media’s idea of what men want, who advertisers consider important and what it means to be a certain age. Instead of making new friends, finding new hobbies and challenges they wrap themselves in a blanket of pity in front of the TV and become couch potatoes.

But what Hollywood and the media try to convince us of isn’t reality. Cases in point hunky Antonio Banderas and Melanie Griffin, Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher. Both of these relationships have endured longer than 90% of Hollywood marriages. The truth is, many men find mature women fascinating, and many of those men are younger. What do they find so interesting?

Older women take pride in their appearance
Women over 50 who have not bought in to the stereo-typical matron description often take more pride in their appearance than young women. Perhaps it’s because young women are beautiful by the mere fact that they are young and don’t think they need to do too much to look good. But many men complain about young women and how they go out of the house dressed in what looks like pajamas with their hair pulled back in a messy scrunchy, or wear tops that show bra straps and thongs that are visible above their pants. These upwardly mobile men find it sexy that older women are more inclined to be more “put together” in public. Taking pride in one’s appearance indicates confidence and self-respect and many men we‘ve read about prefer this to the sloppy appearance most young women present

Older women know their way around the bedroom
Although younger women may be more promiscuous, many men don’t like that in a sexual partner. These younger men also feel mature women are more sensual, know a man’s body better, want and know how to please them in a way that younger women can’t or won’t. In many cases the older woman is also more comfortable with her own body. And a woman over 50, according to Andy Rooney won’t turn to the man after sex and ask “What are you thinking?” either because, according to Rooney they don’t freakin’ worry about what the man is thinking. Again, they are more comfortable, secure with themselves and don‘t need constant reassurance from their partner. Which is why many younger men in their 30’s recognize the benefits of being with a mature woman and often choose them over a younger woman.

Older women are not focused on having children. They focus on their relationships
Men over 50 usually don’t want to start another family, and in fact are turned off by the thought of having to spend the next 20 years raising more children. Been there done that. Instead, they want to enjoy life and share all it has to offer with their partner. Women over 50 have already been mothers and are ready to focus more on their relationships. According to many men over 40 there's something really sexy about 'sex' being the focus of sex! One more thing the mature women offer that a younger woman can’t. the younger woman’s biological clock is, or soon will be going off and they will want to have children.

Older women are financially secure
Older women are more interested in the man, not how much money he has because they are already more financially secure than a woman in her 20‘s or early 30‘s. The younger woman older man scenario is based more on money and the financial security the man brings to the table (assuming her reasons for being with an older man aren’t daddy issues). While the insecure male may need a young woman on his arm to prove virility (and his financial worth), secure men do not find gold-diggers the least bit attractive. And who wants to be with a man that insecure anyway? As a matter of fact for those of you who think that most older men marry women half their age you will be surprised to know that’s not true. Most (successful) mature men marry women close to their own age, for myriad reasons.

Older women are interesting conversationalists
Men are intrigued by older women who can discuss current events, politics and who can talk intelligently about recent books they’ve read. Although many younger women may be intelligent, they are still more interested in movie stars, the latest fashion and hair styles.

Older women do interesting and fun things
Men find older women can introduce them to a variety of culturally stimulating, interesting and fun things to do. Men find it sexy when an older woman enriches their life. The mature woman is also more open and appreciative when the man introduces her to something new too.

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